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Using Disagreement to Improve Relationships? (89 sec read)

Change Your Life in Seconds: Vol. 2, No. 17

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13 Thought-Provoking Reflections

89 seconds to read, week-long meditations.

13. Why is disagreeing with someone such a big deal? tweet now
12. You compete all day, every day, without even realizing it. tweet now
11. Reject most competitions that society puts you in, and choose on your own the challenges that make you happy. tweet now

10. Reflecting is debugging. tweet now
9. You may not like to acknowledge that you desire something, but denying it will not make it go away. tweet now
8. Go beyond your mood. tweet now
7. Ignore projects that won't make a difference, concentrate on those that will, and learn the recognize the difference. tweet now
6. You must feel discomfort to improve, and you need to face the truth in order to experience discomfort. tweet now
5. Most stuff will succeed or fail regardless of how much you worry about it. tweet now
4. Desires, desires, and more desires. tweet now
3. To improve, seek failure. tweet now
2. Improve yourself also to serve others better. tweet now
1. The chances you are not taking now will become the regrets of what you didn't accomplish tomorrow. tweet now

Deeper Dive: Using Disagreement to Improve Relationships?

A few more seconds, deeper reflections.

Any disagreement can be seen as a threat to a relationships. However, in order to grow and improve, you need to be able to disagree with someone without damaging the relationship. And they need to be able to do the same with you. That's what trust and respect are about: having the confidence to disagree without fear of damaging the relationship.

At first, there may be a little discomfort: it's vital to assure those in front of you that your intentions are good—you're giving feedback in order to create a road ahead. And you hope they will do the same. Some could be more receptive to constructive criticism, while others may be too self-conscious.That's the foundation of any genuine relationship, whether it's with people or with yourself. The more you practice this way of relating to others, the easier it will be to be honest with yourself and connect with other people in an authentic way.

In what situations are you most tempted to avoid conflict or disagreement? How can you overcome these feelings?

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